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Well, it’s almost Valentine’s Day and despite the title, I am not going to talk about Cupid.  However, I do want to touch on the concept of two arrows.  This is based on a Chinese proverb:

There are two arrows in life.  The first arrow is the one that hits you from some painful experience.  Perhaps it’s something you did or said, or something someone else did or said.  It’s that initial hurtful sting to the heart, that’s the first arrow.

The second arrow is the one that we keep shooting at ourselves again and again, re-living that pain or hurt.  One could say there are infinite second arrows, but not when we choose to live life consciously.

I took the proverb “to heart”.  Wrote it down on one of my homemade well being cards, and now I keep it in a prominent place.  I can go long periods where I don’t re-visit a painful event, and then suddenly there it is again — another shot to the heart.  Guess what?  It doesn’t feel good.  It’s not supposed to feel good!

Yet, there’s another way of being and engaging with life.  The shot to the heart comes, and rather then staying there and swirling in the pain yet again, I can say: ah, it’s the second arrow on a continuous loop of re-runs!  I choose now consciously, lovingly, kindly … not to go there.

It’s a simple — no, thank you.  Then turning back to my passion, my life, all that lights me up, and affirming — yes, thank you!

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