Archive for August 3rd, 2008

I can change.
I can live out of my imagination
instead of my memory.
I can tie myself to my limitless potential
instead of my limiting past.

— Stephen Covey

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I’m not going to talk about commitment in quite the way you
are used to hearing about it.  This is about a different kind
of commitment, an unwitting or unconscious commitment.

I took a look at what I was committing to after being inspired
by an online friend.  She was inspired by reading “Realities”
which is an ebook available for $10.00 over at The Field Center.
I then added another piece to it that really cemented the wake
up call to the choices I make for myself.  And once we wake up
to what we are choosing, the possibilities to consciously alter
that are endless.

So I’ll explain:

One day I observed myself in self-talk.  I began to say:

“I am so weary of…”

I stopped myself and I changed the self-talk to:

“I am committed to feeling so weary of…”

Do you hear the difference?  The first example is me lost
in my own story, my own movie, reacting to conditions.  The
other example is me taking radical responsibility for the way
I was feeling.

I then took it up a notch.  The next morning I woke up and started
down the ‘asleep at the wheel of life’ and began to worry.  I heard
my inner worry talk and I stopped it, and said:

I am committed to worrying and I have been unwilling to give that up.

Wow, that really made me stop in my tracks!

Suddenly I began to see tons of self-talk and turn it around with just
this one sentence.

Now I’m like a kid in a candy shop…

This is what else I discovered today….I was watching this guy train
his pit bull puppy and I made an assumption that he was being mean
to him.  I was just about to do that thing where I get lost in my own
movie where Bethie takes the role of “I’m sensitive and it’s painful”
…when I just asked myself what is this really about and it HIT me:

I am committed to seeing others as victimizers, and I have been
unwilling to give that up.

Wait, it gets even better!!  Then the next obvious step hit me:

I am committed to seeing others as needing to be RESCUED,
and I have been unwilling to give that up.

This is beyond soothing, beyond reaching for the better feeling
thought.  If you are like me and come up against stuff over and over
again, it’s inviting you to really take a look at it, really get in there and
see what you are choosing for yourself.

Finally, here’s the other piece.  What I have struggled with the most
in the whole ‘you create your own reality’ new thought movement, is
self-blame.  Look what I’m creating and it sucks, bad creator me.
So I turned it around:

I am committed to blaming myself and I have been unwilling to give
that up.

And then I took the radical responsibility up another notch:

I am committed to victimizing myself and I have been unwilling to give
that up.

Wow.  This technique is opening doors to the patterns that have been
at work in my life.  Finally I realize the one tightening the noose around
my neck is me.  And realizing that and removing all self blame for it
by taking radical responsibility offers complete and utter freedom.  Now
truly there is no place I cannot go.

Love, Bethie

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