Archive for May 2nd, 2008

The world shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage. — Anais Nin 

First you crawled, then you learned to walk, and the world grew a little 
bigger. You learned to ride a bike, and it grew even more. Then you learned to 
drive a car and bought a plane ticket. Suddenly, the horizons were limitless. But 
then, those doubts crept in. I can’t go to Los Angeles. I’ll never find my 
way around. And the world shrinks a little bit. I shouldn’t take that trip this 
year; I’ve got too many responsibilities. And it shrinks a little more. Enough 
excuses and rationalizations and you’re left sitting in a little box with the 
lid tightly affixed. 

No experiences, no lessons, no life. 

Boxes can be comfortable. I’ve spent some time in them myself. But no matter 
how cozy you make it, a box is still a box. They come in all sizes and shapes. 
But whenever we start letting unrealistic fears hold us back and down, we can 
be fairly certain we’re climbing inside another box, again. It may take a 
while, but sooner or later we’ll run into the walls. 

Find one small “I can’t” in your life and take the lid off of the box. Look 
around. It’s a big world out there. If it looks small, it’s because you’ve made 
it that way. Try for a minor impossibility. Go apply for that dream job. The 
worst that will happen is that you’ll learn something new about yourself. If you 
don’t actually get the job, you may find out what it will take to get it, and 
then the world will grow when you stop wishing for a miracle and begin 
pursuing your dreams yourself. Pick up some brochures for that photo safari you’ve 
always wanted to take. Learn how to speak a foreign language. One woman I know 
had claustrophobia. For her birthday this year, she rode in a elevator for the 
first time. Then she went back and did it again. 

Go ahead. Poke the top off from your box. Stick your head out. Look around. 
See! The world is a marvelous, amazing place. 

Find a fear, then turn it into a ladder. Get out of the box of doubt and 
insecurity and into the freedom of courage and belief in yourself. 

God, give me the courage to climb out of my box. 

from the book: More Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie

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