Here’s a question from the weekly powerful question:

“How can I demonstrate my gratitude for a part of my body that I have judged as unattractive?”

Now before you even answer it, read this too:

“You may choose, of course, to work with the Question as you see fit. However, you might want to consider reflecting upon the Question without seeking a specific answer too quickly. If an answer is arrived at too soon, the answer is more likely to be based upon what you already know rather than what you might be able to discover over time.

Often times a Question itself can prepare you for something that is larger than you can now imagine or do. It can draw you more deeply into possibilities and the unknown rather than to an answer, particularly if the question is approached from the perspective of “what if” rather than “how.” You might, for example, ask yourself the Question at times when you are feeling emotions, such as fear, joy or sadness, and simply notice what you feel in your body or in your heart when you ask the Question. Then simply move on without attempting to come to an answer.

If you allow a question to maintain its creative tension, you might be surprised at what you discover!”

I love that on two levels, the powerful question and the asking to suspend a propensity to get in there and do something about it, adopt an easy fix, instead to be open to something beyond that first impulse.

If you watched the film What the Bleep Do We Know?!, you saw the main character write love notes on her body in the pivotal bathroom scene.  She wrote on the parts of her she previously saw as revolting.  Then she lay in the tub to soak these messages in.  I did that, too.  My kids, when they were younger, would exclaim to any body who’d listen: Mommy writes on her body. :)

There are parts of my body I’ve looked at and said yuk.  I’ve joked and said in my next life, I’ll come back with no cellulite.  But you know what — in this life all joking aside, I’m done with looking at myself physically, emotionally or otherwise and naming any part of me as bad, wrong, inadequate or not good enough.

These days, I walk a singular path and that’s the path of the heart.  This path only knows how to say yes.  Yes to life, yes to me, yes to love.  It doesn’t matter what word I write on my body or the sky for that matter, what matters most is a kiss of yes on my lips.  Yes to this precious physical vessel I have the privilege of inhabiting.  Yes to all of me.

A single put-down is a tiny insult to the framework of who we are.  Are you done with insults big and small to yourself?  I sure am.  I’m ready to embrace the many ways I now say yes to myself.

Fans of QM/QP, Seth, What the Bleep, Field Center and more will like this video clip which contains several of the WTB scientisits, a few that were only seen in the extended version.  Do you all remember the bumper sticker that read: Question Authority?  If I could summarize this video in two words it would be: Question Reality.  The moment you question it, you cease to be captivated and fascinated by it.  It loses its spell over you.  Now from this questioning, uncertain stance suddenly what seemed so real is now fluid and malleable.  This is the place where anything can change in an instant.  That’s my new t-shirt: Question Reality.

I found this movie trailer on youtube.  It’s very much in the What The Bleep genre.  To my knowledge you can only order the movie on DVD, at this time.  I intend to get it and I’ll report back anything wonderful in it.  In the meantime, it asks a question: What if it were true, would you take the leap?  I don’t fully know the context of the question but I like to entertain the notion that it’s about something that is your heart’s desire which you have not yet seen manifest but you now know for certain it is true for you.  How would you act, who would you be, what leaps might you take that you’ve previously held back on?

Yet you may open the door on any given day to a probable world from your
immediate standpoint, and never know the difference.

This happens all the time, and I mean all the time.

Seth -The Nature of the Psyche
Session 797, Page 203

This follows along nicely with my new mantra that anything can change
in an instant.  And I think I’ve actually stumbled upon a practice that has
led me to experience other probable realities immediately, just as Seth says:
it happens all the time.

I first wrote about it in The Art of Revision and then a follow up post on
Playing It Forward.  This is where I am utilizing Neville’s technique of
revising my day just before I go to sleep and then pre-paving it just before
I get out of bed.  My emphasis has not been on the events of the day them-
selves but on how I want to feel.

Now I’ve added a new practice and that is to stop in the instant that I feel
I’m in a ‘this sucks’ moment.  Stop, withdraw my attention from it and go
within.  I go within to my imagination and find the feeling place of how I
would prefer to feel.  I wait till I feel as if I have embodied that feeling.  At the
moment of embodiment a deep breath of satisfaction just seems to naturally
well up from donning the feeling.  A shift has occurred, another probable
world has been entered, where everything has changed in my inner world
in an instant.   And the truth that remains is I can no longer be held captive
by the events of the outer world.  The outer world can do what it does, I am
independent of any facts.  I do not face any reality unless it’s a reality I wish
to reproduce in my experience.

Well, not only have I stumbled upon a beautiful practice with the help of
Neville’s teachings – I’ve found true personal freedom and I’ve developed
a process that is so self-friendly, so loving, so true to one’s self.   I have
always loved Louise Hay’s mantra: only good lies before me.  However,
there were times I didn’t believe it.  I believe it now.

I wake up in the morning and I consciously create my day the way I want it to happen. Now sometimes, because my mind is examining all the things that I need to get done, it takes me a little bit to settle down and get to the point of where I’m actually intentionally creating my day. But here’s the thing: When I create my day and out of nowhere little things happen that are so unexplainable, I know that they are the process or the result of my creation. And the more I do that, the more I build a neural net in my brain that I accept that that’s possible. (This) gives me the power and the incentive to do it the next day.

So if we’re consciously designing our destiny, and if we’re consciously from a spiritual standpoint throwing in with the idea that our thoughts can affect our reality or affect our life — because reality equals life — then I have this little pact that I have when I create my day. I say, I’m taking this time to create my day and I’m infecting the quantum field. Now if (it) is in fact the observer’s watching me the whole time that I’m doing this and there is a spiritual aspect to myself, then show me a sign today that you paid attention to any one of these things that I created, and bring them in a way that I won’t expect, so I’m as surprised at my ability to be able to experience these things. And make it so that I have no doubt that it’s come from you, and so I live my life, in a sense, all day long thinking about being a genius or thinking about being the glory and the power of God or thinking about being unconditional love.

I’ll use living as a genius, for example. And as I do that during parts of the day, I’ll have thoughts that are so amazing, that cause a chill in my physical body, that have come from nowhere. But then I remember that that thought has an associated energy that’s produced an effect in my physical body. Now that’s a subjective experience, but the truth is is that I don’t think that unless I was creating my day to have unlimited thought, that that thought would come.

Dr. Joe Dispenza in What the BLEEP Do We Know!?

– Author Unknown

Great quote, but what does it mean?

When we are enmeshed in identifying with our own story,
whatever it is, we can’t see the bigger picture or perhaps
even the picture at all.

How do we step out of the story and into a more neutral,
observer state?

There are many ways really.  One is to cultivate a willingness
to suspend judgment about a thing.   Refrain from drawing any
final conclusions.  Understanding that the nature of all things is
continually unfolding.

Another way to slip into one who observes you in the story – without
actually engaging in the whole of it emotionally, is to ask the first
two questions of Byron Katie’s work:

Is this true?
Can I absolutely know that this is true?

Once you ask the questions it seems to automatically snap you out
of being in the story while you question it’s validity in the first
place.

How else might we slip from one who is ‘in the frame’ to one who
is ‘outside of the frame’?  Or phrased Abraham’s way: one who has
his or her nose pressed into ‘what is’ or worse yet :) one who has
his or her face pressed into the pillow of ‘what is’.  A friend of mine
described it as looking at a gorgeous quilt but if you walk up to it,
plant your face up against one square of the quilt, that’s all you ever
see, a tiny section and a blurry one at that.  Step back and the beauty
of the entire quilt begins to take shape.

Step back and allow the Universe to show you the beauty of all your
quilts.  Step back with a faith that all that happens is unfolding for
your good.  Step back with an unwavering faith that this goodness
operates back of all things.

Step back.

Love, Bethie

This is a paraphrase of the interaction with the hotseater:

Abe is telling this dude about Jane Roberts/Seth saying ‘you create
your own reality’. But Abe says really it is you *rendezvous with your
reality*. So then they say at any time there are 20, 40, 100,000 ready
to pop right now synchronistic signs. And the one that does pop is a
sign of where you are now in relationship to who you really are and
who you have become.

I love that: rendezvous with your reality and it does seem a lot more
accurate. An infinite variety of realities already exist, as I understand it.
So I’m not inventing the wheel, I’m not creating it, I’m rendezvousing
with an aspect of what already exists.

This is by the way, the hotseat interaction where the guy asks one more
question at the end:

group hug?

:)

Love, Bethie

– Stephen Covey

I took a look at what I was committing to after being inspired
by an online friend.  She was inspired by reading “Realities”
which is an ebook available for $10.00 over at The Field Center.
I then added another piece to it that really cemented the wake
up call to the choices I make for myself.  And once we wake up
to what we are choosing, the possibilities to consciously alter
that are endless.

So I’ll explain:

One day I observed myself in self-talk.  I began to say:

“I am so weary of…”

I stopped myself and I changed the self-talk to:

“I am committed to feeling so weary of…”

Do you hear the difference?  The first example is me lost
in my own story, my own movie, reacting to conditions.  The
other example is me taking radical responsibility for the way
I was feeling.

I then took it up a notch.  The next morning I woke up and started
down the ‘asleep at the wheel of life’ and began to worry.  I heard
my inner worry talk and I stopped it, and said:

I am committed to worrying and I have been unwilling to give that up.

Wow, that really made me stop in my tracks!

Suddenly I began to see tons of self-talk and turn it around with just
this one sentence.

Now I’m like a kid in a candy shop…

This is what else I discovered today….I was watching this guy train
his pit bull puppy and I made an assumption that he was being mean
to him.  I was just about to do that thing where I get lost in my own
movie where Bethie takes the role of “I’m sensitive and it’s painful”
…when I just asked myself what is this really about and it HIT me:

I am committed to seeing others as victimizers, and I have been
unwilling to give that up.

Wait, it gets even better!!  Then the next obvious step hit me:

I am committed to seeing others as needing to be RESCUED,
and I have been unwilling to give that up.

This is beyond soothing, beyond reaching for the better feeling
thought.  If you are like me and come up against stuff over and over
again, it’s inviting you to really take a look at it, really get in there and
see what you are choosing for yourself.

Finally, here’s the other piece.  What I have struggled with the most
in the whole ‘you create your own reality’ new thought movement, is
self-blame.  Look what I’m creating and it sucks, bad creator me.
So I turned it around:

I am committed to blaming myself and I have been unwilling to give
that up.

And then I took the radical responsibility up another notch:

I am committed to victimizing myself and I have been unwilling to give
that up.

Wow.  This technique is opening doors to the patterns that have been
at work in my life.  Finally I realize the one tightening the noose around
my neck is me.  And realizing that and removing all self blame for it
by taking radical responsibility offers complete and utter freedom.  Now
truly there is no place I cannot go.

Love, Bethie

Impartial, calm and free!   I never thought I could or would find value in lack of passion.
Passion in the sense of being caught up and swirling in emotion.  Never really realizing
that every emotion I choose and every circumstance that elicits and supports that emotion
is also my choosing.

I am a big fan of What the Bleep and really took a closer look at it this past winter in the Rabbit
Hole version which is many more hours of scientist interviews and different cuts of the movie.
Remember how the character that Marlee Maitlin played would go into the theater of her life and
watch different versions of who she was in her life and how her life played out.  Remember that
she was a largely dispassionate witness in the theater as she chose a version of being one who
marries an unfaithful man, one who believes that all men are cheaters and marriage is bad.
Remember how much she didn’t want to photograph that wedding and how she chose to overlay
her experience that the groom cheated on his new wife.  How everything she chose in her experience
reflected and supported her beliefs.  Then later we see Marlee’s character watch another version
of herself one who is content and happily married, after she’s had that pivotal bathroom scene where
she returns to what is beautiful, loveable and worthy about herself.

So the knowledge that we are choosing it all has not been quite enough for me.  But here’s what is
helping me to take it to another level, seeing the circumstances in my life that I’ve chosen and all the
players in it and putting them up there, in my mind’s eye, on the screen in the theater of my life.
And then stepping back, dispassionately with a simple question: what do I gain by playing this movie?
What role do the players take to support this gain?  And I’m not talking about gain in the usual sense
but more in the sense of what is the payoff here for me to continue choosing this?  And then from that
honest inquiry of myself, deciding what it is I consciously want to put up there in my movie.  What role
do I play – who am I?  And then stepping into that movie.  It’s a very conscious, deliberate practice and
one I’m only just embarking on.  The material that I’ve been working with over at The Field Center has
been helping me to take this to another level.  My appreciation and gratitude goes out to Holly S. for
introducing me to it and to myself for being such a big Asker and being eternally committed and willing
to step into the Answers.

Love, Bethie