Ok, all you Eat, Pray, Lovers out there. Get your book out and turn to page 149. This is where Richard, the Texas yogi is telling ‘Groceries’ what a true soul mate is. I’m gonna quote some of it below, but keep reading a few more pages cuz it’s pee your pants funny. Especially when Richard tells Groceries she’s a control freak – her reaction: priceless!
…A true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you
everything that’s holding you back, the person who brings you to your own
attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most
important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and
smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever. Nah. Too painful.
Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself
to you, and then they leave. And thank God for it.
(excerpted from Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert)
Oh, and the dog and the empty tin can part – also priceless!
If you don’t have the book, drop everything and go get it! I’d loan you my
copy but as you can see I’m still reading it. Yes, I know I started reading it
weeks ago. But I’m savoring it. My favorite thing is to savor. Yup, that’s my
story and I’m stickin’ to it.
Love all, Bethie
A woman told me about this book and it was so sad that she she believed that a person who comes into your life to help you grow is not someone you would want to live with because she read it in that book without reading the author’s resentment and resistance to change in between the lines. What the author fails to tell people is that a true soulmate is not a fool, but a very wise being who will walk away when you refuse to change your ways.
I never read this book, but it is sad that people think that real love means the happy fairy tale, but got to tell people what they want to hear to sell books I guess. No wonder the divorce rate is over 50% and number of single people is the highest it has ever been. If it involves work and suffering, it can’t possibly be love?
These days values, morals, and discipline is everything that’s bad for you because happiness is all about feeling good and doing what you want.
Glad you posted this Beth.
Mayra,
You said it yourself, you haven’t read the book. It’s not a fairy tale, it’s a story about a woman on a truth seeking journey. So stop making judgments on the book based on what your friend got out of it. People read things and interpret things in different ways. That quote about soulmates isn’t even from the author, it’s from someone she met along the way.
On a recent Abraham CD, they talked about soulmates. They said, and I am paraphrasing here, that those people in your life who drive you crazy are your soulmates. They are the ones you agreed to come forth with into physical life for the purpose of provoking each other. You knew that out of that provocation, or contrast, would be born new desire. Abraham says that what trips us up is that instead of focusing on the new desire, we focus on what provoked us. So instead of expanding as human beings to align with our new desire, we get stuck in what we don’t want.
That makes sense to me. If the Universe is all about expansion, because without expansion there is only decay and death, we are here to contribute to expansion by way of our new desires. Floating along in an idyllic bubble, which is a common fantasy about life with a soulmate, does not promote expansion. If everything is perfect, what is there to reach for? So we need those irritating people, just as an oyster needs a grain of sand to produce a pearl.
From the Abe perspective, there isn’t just one soulmate, there are many. Parents, siblings, co-workers — anyone and everyone who provokes us into reaching for a new definition of what we want from life — all of them are our soulmates.
So I have decided that I am going to give up on looking for my soulmate. I have apparently already found a lot of them and I don’t want any more. From now on, I am going to look for my One True Ally. An ally is someone who has my back. Someone who will soothe me when the soulmates drive me nuts. My ally will be my buddy and will make me laugh. He’ll help me stop focusing on what provokes me and start focusing on my new desires. Yep, an ally — that’s what I’m looking for.
That’s one of my most favorite part of the book! A lot of people are still looking for fairy-tale soulmate where personal work is not required. But I guess we all have our own timeline in our understanding of things. Revelations don’t come all at once to all people. We each have a path that we follow with our own speed.
While we’re on the subject of EPL, I’d like to say: I now visit Wayan and Ketut whenever I’m in Bali for summer and bring friends to meet them.
Thank you for this! I was looking for this subsection in English (I am reading the Dutch translation).
I am also looking for this one: #43, first thing Richard says? I bet that one’s hilarious too.
Oh maybe I should buy an English copy too, I just adore this book, it’s the second time I’m reading it, the first time was exactly one year ago and it’s still my favorite.